I think my boyfriend is gay and i really dont know what 2 do bout it, and i really need some advice,cause i couldnt bear if he was. ppl plz HELPppl desperatley need advice

okay

Step 1. Calm down
Step 2. WHY do you think he is gay, what has he done/said?

well hes not as affectionate towards me as he was before, and whenever were talking bout our relationship he aways changes the subject.

1. He isnt gay

It seems he is just losing interest, the best way to handle things is NOT do what led said.

Talking about relationship is something guys inherently DONT want to do. So you are gonna have to be kinda upfront about it, if you want to salvage things confront him. MAKE him talk about the relationship.

what if i confront him and he says that he is gay, i couldnt take that, cause he is the frst boyfriend have had in a long time that hasnt treated me like crap.

Dang, what the hell did you do to make him gay? (sarchasm...)

I really don't have any idea what to do about it, but I really do hope you get it cleared out. Honestly. :hug:

what if i confront him and he says that he is gay, i couldnt take that, cause he is the frst boyfriend have had in a long time that hasnt treated me like crap.


Look I know its hard, but you putting yourself in a situation that will never come out well.

You need to confront him, yes it may end up badly but it need to be done, if you dont you will never know whats going on. So its either talk with him or let your mind worry.

I suggest that if He is gay, you convince him that it is wrong and that it hurts you and that he can(even if he doesn't believe it) change. At one point of his life he wasn't gay, seeing how he is dating you. I've known a lot of gay people who converted over after confronted. And this might sound real churchy, but i'd suggest you pray for him.

Funny how a whole bunch of (possibly 12 year olds) MALE computer nerds figure they can give advice on relationships hey? lol.

I agree with all the "possibly 13 yr old male nerds" haha u just need to talk to him. make him realise its making you uncomfortable, guys for some reason aint so good on the emotional side they cover it up with the im so tough look. so just sit him down and make him talk bout wat he and u r feelin and how u can fix it.

I suggest that if He is gay, you convince him that it is wrong and that it hurts you and that he can(even if he doesn't believe it) change. At one point of his life he wasn't gay, seeing how he is dating you. I've known a lot of gay people who converted over after confronted. And this might sound real churchy, but i'd suggest you pray for him.

Funny how a whole bunch of (possibly 12 year olds) MALE computer nerds figure they can give advice on relationships hey? lol.

that was a bit mean >_< Im not 12 you know, and Iv had my share of good and bad relationships in my day.

that was a bit mean >_< Im not 12 you know, and Iv had my share of good and bad relationships in my day.
oh i didnt mean to say anything to offend u i was just quoting what was said before

oh i didnt mean to say anything to offend u i was just quoting what was said before

I know :P just being troublesome XD never to old for that ^_^

to find out if he is gay then get out some of your porno mags i know that not only boys have them or are we the only ones and if he looks and shows intrest then there is a possability discuss fashion that's another one if he knows what your talking about he's gay possibly and there are a lot of other tests but the sure fire way is ask him but that could embaress you so why don't you say something like
hey we don't work we'll as a relationship why don't we just remain friends. i heard it on a tv show once

I know :P just being troublesome XD never to old for that ^_^
haha thats gd :laughing1

well guyz i spoke 2 him yesterday , and i confronted him and told him what i thought, and he finally came out and said he was not gay, but that he needs space 2 think about what he is getting frm the relationship, cause he feels that the relationship isnt goin anywhere. I then said how he could think that, cause i feel that we have a very strong emotional connection. He said that he felt that 2 but it kinda faded as the relationship went on, and i got so angry and upset that i couldnt face him, so i just stormed out of his house, and havent spoken to him since.

ok "bubbles" first of all how old are you?? what happened?

Bubbles there is no relationship when only 1 person is invovled. YOu cant enforce emotions on him, so might as well stop. YOu say you have a emotional connection, wait untill your older.

ppl im nearly 18 so i think i know what im takinn about, when it comes to relationships, so dnt lecture me that im not old enough!!

ppl im nearly 18 so i think i know what im takinn about, when it comes to relationships, so dnt lecture me that im not old enough!!
Ah, the 'I'm a teenager and I know everything' attitude. I know it well. I was the same way when I was your age. Trust me, you grow out of it.

well im gonna speak to him later on, 2 try and sort out whatever is happening between him and me

yeh i finally cooled down, and made a right decision, otherwise i would have made 190 times worse if i was just screamin at him.

well ive talked with him, and told him that maybe it was best if he did take some time out of the relationship. I figured that i better let him do this rather than pressuring him, and then to loose him completley, so me and him r cooling it 4 a while.ppl thanx 4 ure advice, and when anthing happens between me and my boyfriend, well distance boyfriend i will let u know.

if you ever suspect a guy is a phag you can use my three techniques reme,ber them bubbles and use them wisely (if i could be bothered to go into the smilie list and select the yoda one that would go here)

I suggest that if He is gay, you convince him that it is wrong and that it hurts you and that he can(even if he doesn't believe it) change. At one point of his life he wasn't gay, seeing how he is dating you. I've known a lot of gay people who converted over after confronted. And this might sound real churchy, but i'd suggest you pray for him.

I cant even begin to tell you how pissed off i am after i read that. Now are you saying that You try to STOP people from being gay? You think you can convince people that being gay is wrong and you can convert them? dude, that is just messed up. Thinking being gay is wrong is one thing. Trying to convince a gay person that being gay is wrong is something else. Im sorry, but i just cant stand people like you.http://gprime.net/board/images/icons/icon8.gif

I cant even begin to tell you how pissed off i am after i read that. Now are you saying that You try to STOP people from being gay? You think you can convince people that being gay is wrong and you can convert them? dude, that is just messed up. Thinking being gay is wrong is one thing. Trying to convince a gay person that being gay is wrong is something else. Im sorry, but i just cant stand people like you.http://gprime.net/board/images/icons/icon8.gif

Im glad you live in a happy world Diet Poop. Sorry that everyone doesn't think like you do. Some people believe homosexuality is wrong. Some people would find the name diet poop offensive, but you don't care about them. I got angry that you imeadtly became hostile and attacked his post.

I think my boyfriend is gay and i really dont know what 2 do bout it, and i really need some advice,cause i couldnt bear if he was. ppl plz HELPppl desperatley need advice
My advice would have to be.........pickle.
yes, i know, im a genius.

sorry what do u mean by pickle.

well my boyfriend came bck frm his time away, and visted me at home yesterday. What happened was that he said that he appreciated that i gave him space 2 think and all that, and he should have told me the feelings he was having about him&me, and the only reasons he was acting the way he was that he was attracted to a guy. I got so pissed and told him that when i asked u were u gay, and u said no, u were lying 2 my face how could u do that! He then said that he was so confused about the feelings he was having and he didnt know what 2 do about them, and he didnt want 2 hurt me even more by saying that he might be gay. I cooled down and said i understood, that maybe i would have probably done the same thing if i was in his shoes. I then asked him what he figured out about himself and the relationship when he was gone. He said that he really thought hard about the situation and feelings, and finally drew the line and said that he is not gay(man i was soooooooooooooo relieved) and that the spark he felt between him and me was just sort of fading(my heart started beating real fast, i thought he was gonna dump me)and then he said that he had 2 go away and figure out if he really missed me, sort of like a test, so he knows if he realy missed me that much that he couldnt stand him not being with me, then that would tell him that he really did geniually love me. So i then asked well then what did u find out. He said close ure eyes so i did, and he kissed me like hes never kissed me before, and said that i realised that im not gay, and that i luv u soooooooo much, and that hes discovered feelings about me that hes never felt before,and feels really lucky 2 be with meand also that maybe things need to change so this wont happen again, and i agreed,and said that honestly speakin i was glad he didnt turn out gay, and that over the dayz ive been thinkin, and have realised that i wasnt giving up on him that easily becasue i luv him 2 much. After all the serious talk was out the way we got a little jiggy(if u know what i mean). Guyz u cannot believe how relieved i was, i was sooooo happy, that i had smiled soooooo much that my cheecks were hurting. By the way his names scott
I WANT 2 DECLARE THIS 2 THE WHOLE FORUM,ME AND MY BOYFRIEND R BCK ON AND THAT I LUV HIM SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH,AND I WANT 2 BE WITH HIM 4EVER. :pile:

good for you!!! :happy:

Thanx. I am just soooooo happy. I telll u this is gonna be the best summer ever.

I think tjis will be a good summer too :happy:

if you wanna see if hes gay, take your shirt off and see what he does.

depending how old u r, i'd say...........






























have sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :happy:

Oh yea great advice Gav lol. i think you just need to ask him straight out.if he gets defensive say its for your relationship if hes going to hide things from you it was never meant to work.

why do women always think that love is destiny. i am in a "fling as you say" but i feel in control not like im on some boat with no rudder or any of this romantic crap you people say. :mf_dough:

good advice frm both of u. :fireman:

dont listen 2 me what do i know

Well thanx 4 the advice guyz, il keep it in mind

I'm afraid my boyfriend might be gay... How can I tell?
:sad2:


I don't really have a boyfriend. :laughing1
But if I was gay, I wouldn't want people trying to turn me straight like diet poop said.

why do women always think that love is destiny. i am in a "fling as you say" but i feel in control not like im on some boat with no rudder or any of this romantic crap you people say. :mf_dough:
its not destiny it wasnt meant to come out like that im just saying that if they cant talk to eachother and be honest then it wont work and probably never will. and i dont think anyone should ever be in control you should just have to know whats happening and how to handle eachother without being "in control" its kinda overpowering and can lead people to take the wrong idea about you. so yeah just my thoughts

hey guyz my boyfriend asked me to marry him, and i told him that i will think about it. pp ltell me what 2 do

hey quyz no1s replied 2 my post and my boyfriend naggin me cause ive been avoidin him plz ppl really need help

hey where is every1 does no1 want 2 help me

hey where is every1 does no1 want 2 help me